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Thank you for telling your story. My husband was a DV attorney for a lot of years, and yes, men are abused in some situations, it is so hard for them to get out of it, because no one, even themselves will often believe it, especially if there is not physical evidence. I'm proud of you.

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Thank you. You're right. People don't believe it. That's the crazy thing.

I've been told that I was offensive, both for saying that I was abused and for filing for divorce. It's not an easy road even after you get away, but it's definitely not as tough.

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May 9Liked by Jim McCoy

Women abuse in a different way than men, and what you describe is that style of abuse. But I couldn’t help thinking that your ex was just a shitty human who’d treat anyone badly out of pure selfishness. The hard lesson is that some people are not worth any time and effort and the best you can do is get away from them. I feel bad for the kids though, who have to grow up without models of decent adult behavior.

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Erp! Hell on Earth. Sorry, but I would have danced at her funeral.

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I don't blame you, except for the fact that she's still alive and has my kids.

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Ah, I didn't read carefully enough.

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It made me cringe to read your story.

Classic borderline personality.

Glad you're out of it, but I'm sorry that your kids will have to live with it.

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Thanks for sharing your story! My first marriage was very much like yours. I was glad to be able to extricate myself and move on with my life.

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This kind of stuff is what his - to date - scared me away from marriage; that plus the court system being stacked against males.

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You're right about the court system. I've seen that with my own eyes.

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I’m sorry you had to endure all this.

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Thank you

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Lived it, exactly. Wasted 19 years trying to behave. And gave up exactly as you did. Brutal. Thankfully I’ve found the love of my life, and that miserable cunt is a dim memory. But I have no relationship with my kids either, because of that cunt. She was getting them high on pot at 12 years old. She needed buddies,apparently, and I was just a worker.

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Wow. I'm sorry.

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Win some, lose some. I finally won. Losing the kids sucks, I tried real hard to raise them right,but cool mom wins every time.

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